Experience Sharing: How To Cooperate With Others

Last week, when I was dining with my eldest daughter Kate in a restaurant in Ashland, Oregon, she told me about her extraordinary experience as an assistant director of The Pirates of Penzance over the past three months at Oregon Shakespeare Festival in Oregon.

This experience made Kate accumulate a lot of directing large musical productions.

Kate told me: "he always brings people who are convinced of their creativity, intelligence and ability to gather around him.

Once he decides to appoint someone, he will never waver in his confidence in this person.

As a collaborator, you naturally want to prove that he didn't look away. "

In the early days of my career, I worked as a reporter for many years.

Most of the time, I feel that I am defending my hardworking words, not changing editors, not cutting articles for space, or even leaving them imprinted on my articles.

To tell the truth, my confrontation is more than cooperation. Many times, I feel that I have not received due care, consideration or respect.

Thirteen years ago, I left the press and worked with a partner to develop training courses to help people better manage their lives, especially in the workplace.

As the two of us live in different cities, we made an appointment to start working on the phone for 7 hours at 7 o'clock every morning.

Although we have never said that we respect each other, this consciousness is very strong.

You can't be complacent with your own ideas.

Instead, we will put all the ideas out, then two people think together, reorganize, and even refute some ideas to prove other better ideas.

Our aim is only to create a richer, deeper, simpler and smarter idea.

We all believe that two people can create better results than one person.

It's wonderful to feel the joy of overcoming problems.

We never thought of distributing merit until one day things changed.

This change is slow, invisible and silent.

Our self psychology is beginning to cause trouble, and credit has become a problem.

For years, we just wanted to create good ideas together.

But in the end, it turned into a battle.

Our partnership began to emerge and eventually collapsed.

From this experience, I realized that trust is the core of any partnership.

When there is a split between our mutual trust, our cooperation will inevitably come to an end.

Ten years later, I found that I began to reflect on this experience, because now I have entered another relationship with different wonders.

This time my partner is my little daughter Emily, who works with Energy Project.

Emily helped me edit my blog posts and articles.

For the first time in my life, I had an editor I totally trusted.

I believe in Emily's insightful wisdom.

I believe she will help me write the best articles as her top priority.

I believe she will tell me what she thinks without reservation.

The most important thing is that I believe she not only respects me, but also cares for me.

Of course, I care about her very much.

I don't necessarily have to accept Emily's advice, but basically I do.

Even though she boldly pointed out that I had misunderstood a colleague, I readily accepted it.

This summer, one thing Kate told me is that when two smart people get serious disagreements, the solution is never to argue until the other side presses the other side, but to look for third better ways.

This does not mean compromise. On the contrary, it is a kind of understanding that let us understand that when two smart partners fail to reach a consensus, they may be thinking that they may have some problems.

Kate told me: "on the desk of Bill, there is a photo frame with a" Yes "inside it.

This is his belief that he can always find new, thought-provoking or unusual lights in other people's words.

This is exactly what I want to share with all partners.

Yes, I respect you.

Yes, I care about you.

Yes, your contribution is unique.

For leaders, there may be no greater challenge than trusting their subordinates.

Sometimes, this means that the trust of subordinates should exceed their subordinates' trust in themselves.

What precious gifts I have from my daughters! Children are the father of adults.