What Should Parents Do In The Face Of Crying Baby

Parents often face many parenting problems: "Should the baby cry, or should it be comforted immediately, or should it be calm, so as not to spoil the child?" This topic has attracted extensive discussion and controversy for a long time, but as time goes by, more and more families are beginning to realize that the answer to this question is not simply either one or the other, It contains a deeper level of parenting wisdom - how to scientifically establish a sense of security while respecting children's emotional needs.

The seemingly abstract concept of security is deeply rooted in the attachment relationship of infants and young children. According to psychologists' research, babies have established deep emotional ties with their main caregivers (usually mothers) since birth. This kind of connection is not only about survival, but also the cornerstone for babies to recognize the world, establish trust and emotional connection. When babies' needs are responded to in a timely and appropriate manner, they learn to trust and rely, thus forming security.

It is worth mentioning that attachment relationship is not a single model, but shows diversified characteristics. From safe attachment to contradictory attachment, avoidance attachment, and even chaotic attachment, each type reflects different interaction modes and emotional connection states between the baby and the caregiver. Safe attachment babies can face challenges with confidence and have stronger social skills and empathy; However, babies with contradictory, avoidant and chaotic attachment may encounter obstacles in social and emotional development due to lack of security.

Back to the original question, should the baby cry and be comforted immediately? The answer lies in how we understand the essence of "coaxing". The real coax is not a simple physical contact (such as lifting), but an emotional response and resonance. When parents face the baby crying, it is more important to convey the message of "I am here, I understand you, and I care about you". Even if it is not held directly, the baby can feel loved and protected through gentle words, soothing eyes and hugging posture.

Furthermore, the key to helping the baby build a sense of security is to provide emotional value. This means that parents need to learn to listen to the emotional needs behind their children's crying and respond with patience, understanding and care, rather than just meeting their superficial needs. A hug, a word of encouragement and a smile can all become the warm sunshine in children's emotional world and help them establish a stable sense of security.

In general, whether the baby cries or not is not a simple multiple-choice question, but a complex process that requires parents to flexibly use parenting wisdom according to the child's specific needs and their own situation. In this process, it is important to remain sensitive and patient, learn to understand their emotional world from the perspective of children, and use love and care to build a solid foundation for their sense of security.